Self Care is Important: Interview with Vivianne Winters Israel

Welcome to Living and Loving Each Day! This podcast is dedicated to parents of children with adaptive needs and adults facing similar challenges. I’m Sue Jansen, your host—a realtor specializing in accessible housing, a big band singer, and passionate podcast host. Today, I’m thrilled to introduce our guest, Vivian Winters Israel.

Meet Vivian Winters Israel

Vivian is a critical care nurse of 47 years, an author of children’s books focused on helping kids navigate today’s emotional challenges, and a passionate advocate for self-care. Through her research and personal experiences, Vivian has uncovered powerful tools for managing stress, improving emotional responses, and creating a better quality of life.

Her work began with a focus on teachers, who are often overwhelmed by increasing demands. However, as Vivian shares, these self-care practices are essential for everyone, especially for caregivers of children with adaptive needs.

Why Self-Care Matters

“Parents and caregivers often feel guilty taking time for themselves,” Vivian explains, “but true self-care is the best way to show up for yourself and the ones you love.”

“True self-care is not selfish; it’s the root of a better, kinder, and more peaceful life.” – Vivian Winters Israel

Caregivers of adaptive needs children live in a 24/7, 365-day reality. The constant demands can leave them drained, overwhelmed, and stressed. This affects their ability to function creatively, manage conversations with service providers, or take time to enjoy their families.

Vivian emphasizes the importance of giving yourself permission to prioritize self-care.

“Give yourself permission to take care of you—because when your cup is full, you can give more to others.” – Vivian Winters Israel

These tools are practical, simple, and scientifically proven. Two of her favorites can be done in under two minutes, shifting you from fight-or-flight mode into a state of calm.

Vivian’s Self-Care Resources

Vivian offers a free downloadable PDF filled with tools and resources for anyone ready to incorporate self-care into their daily lives. Two of her favorite practices include:

1. Dr. Paul Sheele’s Laser Focus Method: A method that can be done in 90 seconds, anytime, anywhere.

2. The Power of Awe: Based on the book of the same name, this practice brings joy into your being on demand—clinically proven during the pandemic to help navigate stress.

“Start small. Two minutes of self-care can shift your mindset, calm your stress, and reset your day.” – Vivian Winters Israel

Vivian’s advice to caregivers is to start small and practice regularly. “Even two minutes can transform your mindset before critical conversations or moments of overwhelm,” she says.

Practical Self-Care Tips

Vivian shared a quick exercise to help relax and reset:

• Relax your shoulders: Truly drop them to trigger a neurochemical signal that you’re safe.

• Relax your forehead: Release the tension and tell your body you’re calm.

• Smile softly: A gentle smile activates relaxation responses in the brain.

• Focus on your breath: Feel the air as it moves in and out across your upper lip.

“We can’t clear our minds completely, but we can focus on our breath and come back to calm.” – Vivian Winters Israel

These simple steps can center you, reduce anxiety, and improve focus, even in moments of chaos.

A Message for Caregivers

Vivian’s message is clear:

• Take time for yourself.

• Ask for help.

• Give yourself permission to prioritize your well-being.

“If you’re overwhelmed, pause. Breathe. Relax your shoulders. You can’t freak out in your head when you’re present in your body.” – Vivian Winters Israel

Self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary. By taking care of ourselves, we show up stronger, kinder, and more capable for the people we love.

Closing Thoughts

It was an honor to host Vivian on Living and Loving Each Day. Her insights are a gift to anyone managing life’s challenges. Self-care isn’t about escaping responsibilities—it’s about thriving within them.

For Vivian’s free self-care resources, check the description or visit suejansen.ca. You’re not alone, and there are tools and people ready to support you.